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"Through the SELF"
Prevention program against bullying, harassment & violence through self-awareness and self-esteem  enhancement
Women & Children Empowerment

L'Association Parle-moi crée des
applications mobiles
pour soutenir les victimes de violence et de harcèlement


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For a better awareness of oneself and the world

"KYF - Know Yourself First" Methodology

We are all different.

What hurts me may not hurt my neighbor, because our sensitivities and our experiences of this world are different.

We project onto others our own view of the world, our own beliefs and limitations.

By understanding our uniqueness and our interconnectedness, by discovering who we really are behind our thoughts, our beliefs and our fears, we allow each of us to develop our own personal power.

To gain confidence in who we are and that this singularity is our wealth.


Our program develops compassion, emotional intelligence, social skills and self-awareness.

Because everything starts from Yourself...

Accueil : Nos cours

Boost self-esteem

Victims sometimes feel that they deserve the violence they are experiencing, or that it is "not that bad". They submit out of loyalty or to protect their executioner., conditioned by false beliefs, lack of self-esteem and/or fear.

Dare to seek help

Many times victims fear that talking about what they are going through will make the situation worse.

They are afraid of reprisals.

To be reborn differently

Fears, beliefs and conditionings are created by our mind. Our emotions feed and nourish them.

By understanding what emotions are and how to manage them and by practicing introspection,   we can rebuild ourselves differently.

Co-created by Sonia GRIMM - author, composer, mediator, expert in Mindfulness, practitioner in applied neuroscience and Reiki Usui &

Steve Alban TINEO - founder of "KYF - Know Yourself First" methodology - expert in negotiation and conflict resolution, and mental trainer of many personalities and top athletes.

In addition to building self-esteemour program includes practical ways to manage differences of opinion and beliefs , avoiding creating conflicts.

We stop judging others when we understand that differences are a source of learning and enrichment, and that they are created by a filter of understanding of reality that is specific to each human being, to their history, to their all their lived experiences, their emotional profile, their culture, their religion, their gender, their nationality, their family environment, etc. We stop considering the other as a danger to ourselves, but can welcome them in their difference. Having the opportunity to share our ideas with people who do not have the same opinion as us is a source of lessons.

By learning to manage our relationships with others in a peaceful and open way, we strengthen social cohesion and well-being.

Learning to understand our own unconscious behaviors gives us a liberating light on life and the way we behave and make our choices.

Living in peace is a right,

but it is also a personal responsibility.

Our message

An abused child may, in order to avoid further suffering, later become either a victim - and submit, or an aggressor - and want to submit others.  This happens mostly unconsciously. 

It is therefore important to carry out prevention with young people, by explaining:

  •   How to learn to determine what is right or wrong for yourself and the importance of not moving away from what is right.

  •   How to defend yourself or ask for help if necessary. Daring to ask for help is a sign of courage. There is no shame in being a victim

  • The importance of self-respect, of not letting yourself be hurt, of learning to give love to yourself.

  • Protect yourself FOR yourself and not AGAINST the other.

  • Our behavior impacts others and the hurts we inflict (on ourselves and others) have consequences.

  • We make them responsible for their daily behavior, particularly with regard to social networks. We make them aware that their behavior has an impact on themselves and on others.

  • Talking down or making fun of someone on social media is harassment and it is very destructive, painful and unacceptable behavior. "Liking" an abusive post is also harassment and by doing so, you also become a stalker.

  • We explain to them the dangers of posting photos or other personal information.

  • Conflict can be positive and a source of wealth. Disagreeing is not a reason to create a conflict. We explain to them how to understand the differences and manage the conflicts. 

  • Creating conflict is a way for the ego to assert itself – and an ego that needs assertion is an ego that lacks self-love and confidence. For older children, we explain how the beliefs and conditionings that form thoughts are created.

  • How to express their emotions, for example anger and sadness, never against the other, but for oneself. Never minimize our emotions. Any buried anger becomes a ticking time bomb.

As for the adolescent or adult victims, it is essential that they understand that there is something broken inside them that is pushing (or pushed) them unconsciously to submit, to accept and to remain in a toxic situation. . 

The victim must understand that this broken part of themselves can and must be repaired so that it does not repeat the same pattern.

We explain to him the importance of rebuilding himself and that there are many ways to do it:

  • Understand our emotions and the importance of expressing them,

  • Understand where our thoughts come from that break our self-esteem, confidence and self-love. 

  • Understand where the fear of leaving a toxic situation comes from, where the fact of submitting comes from and that our thoughts are only an interpretation of reality.

  • Learn to disidentify from our mind, our thoughts, our beliefs and conditioning to be reborn differently.

  • Learn to discover who you are, so you can act in accordance with what is right for you.

In order to be able to make choices in conscience, without being a victim of our limiting beliefs and our mental fears.

We were victims, but we are no longer victims.

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